Attachment Therapy is understanding how our history shapes our present.
Early childhood is the most important period in our mind’s development. During infancy, a time of exponential brain growth, our minds are rapidly encoding the lessons of life. Early experiences disproportionately effect the structure of our mind. Unlike a colt ready to run a few minutes after birth, human-infants are wholly dependent on our caregivers for years. Out of our dependency emerges our sense of self.
In our culture of hyper-individualism, "attachment" is a dirty-word, but our success as a species is built on thousands of years of attachment parenting. Humans aren’t the strongest species, but we are the most exceptional in our cooperation. This powerful trait begins with the infant-parent relationship.
If we’re lucky, we had a parent that met our physical needs for sustenance as well as our emotional needs. Acceptance and reassurance when we were scared, hurt, and angry was as nourishing as mother’s milk.
Unfortunately, many of us in psychotherapy had parents that became upset when we were scared, sad, or angry. Perhaps there was annoyance at our excitement. Or maybe our parent figures were just altogether absent. To the immature and dependent mind, this taught us that some emotions were not OK. That feeling angry or sad or happy results in negative consequences.
Even as we grow out of dependency, we can’t escape the lessons of childhood. In fact, these early lessons usually become unconscious principals that invisibly guide our lives. We may not understand why we feel so moody. Not having a voice for some emotions numbs all of our emotions.
Attachment therapy makes space for the full spectrum of emotion. We repair the injuries of the past by giving ourselves the compassion in the present. By building a empathic relationship together, we will reconnect you to the sense of vitality essential to a happy life.
Early childhood is the most important period in our mind’s development. During infancy, a time of exponential brain growth, our minds are rapidly encoding the lessons of life. Early experiences disproportionately effect the structure of our mind. Unlike a colt ready to run a few minutes after birth, human-infants are wholly dependent on our caregivers for years. Out of our dependency emerges our sense of self.
In our culture of hyper-individualism, "attachment" is a dirty-word, but our success as a species is built on thousands of years of attachment parenting. Humans aren’t the strongest species, but we are the most exceptional in our cooperation. This powerful trait begins with the infant-parent relationship.
If we’re lucky, we had a parent that met our physical needs for sustenance as well as our emotional needs. Acceptance and reassurance when we were scared, hurt, and angry was as nourishing as mother’s milk.
Unfortunately, many of us in psychotherapy had parents that became upset when we were scared, sad, or angry. Perhaps there was annoyance at our excitement. Or maybe our parent figures were just altogether absent. To the immature and dependent mind, this taught us that some emotions were not OK. That feeling angry or sad or happy results in negative consequences.
Even as we grow out of dependency, we can’t escape the lessons of childhood. In fact, these early lessons usually become unconscious principals that invisibly guide our lives. We may not understand why we feel so moody. Not having a voice for some emotions numbs all of our emotions.
Attachment therapy makes space for the full spectrum of emotion. We repair the injuries of the past by giving ourselves the compassion in the present. By building a empathic relationship together, we will reconnect you to the sense of vitality essential to a happy life.